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I want to put myself out of a job

I want to put myself out of a job

My mission for Bloke Coaching is that it won’t be needed in 15 years. That will coincide with my 50th birthday. Call me naïve. But I’m putting it out there in order to keep myself accountable – ❌ I don't want to still be doing this in 15 years' time. ❌ I don't want to...

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Gender Equity vs Gender Equality

Gender Equity vs Gender Equality

I was having a discussion earlier this week with a man working in D&I, and he picked up on my language around achieving gender ‘equality’ rather than ‘equity’. He shared that recently – only three weeks prior – he’d come to the realisation that gender equality...

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Intention Bias vs Judging Behaviour

Intention Bias vs Judging Behaviour

There is a hypocrisy most of us struggle with. Intentions and behaviour are legitimate ways to evaluate human conduct. The problem is that we are conveniently biased towards intentions when considering ourselves, and towards behaviour when evaluating other people. We...

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Do you see gender inequality?

Do you see gender inequality?

A lot of men don’t seem to ‘get’ gender inequality …yet. We struggle to see what so many non-men can see so regularly and so plainly. Firstly, because there is male privilege, we probably don’t see the inequality as easily as those without the privilege. But here’s...

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International Women’s Day Join the discussion

International Women’s Day Join the discussion

Men, we need to be active and involved. March 8th is International Women’s Day, in case you hadn’t noticed. There is a plethora of female voices championing for equality, celebrating successes and inspiring more work to be achieved. In case you are yet to realise,...

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Late to the Party

Late to the Party

I have a friend who is notorious for arriving late to gatherings. Frequently 2-3 hours late. And if there’s acknowledgement and an apology, it’s usually quite superficial. This frustrates me greatly, but I know calling him out about it only sours the...

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Are you watering down your DEI Initatives?

Are you watering down your DEI Initatives?

𝗔𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗱𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗗𝗘𝗜 𝗶𝗻𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲𝘀? There is a difference between compliance training and real development. I don't work in compliance training, but unfortunately, many organisations mistake DEI as another compliance topic. At the heart, many organisations...

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Understanding and Interactions

Understanding and Interactions

"We, men, sometimes don't understand something because we don't live it" ~ Jorge Rosillo, CEO and General Manager, Galapagos Ecological Airport as part of the UN Global Compact to Target Gender Equality in support of the #HeForShe movement.   Men, we need to try...

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Call me a Friend, rather than an Ally

Call me a Friend, rather than an Ally

This may sound a bit controversial, but please don't call me an Ally.   I have always felt uncomfortable with the word 'Ally' and 'Allyship'. I understand the intention of the terms, and they are used broadly in contexts to signal connection between someone...

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Why doesn’t Brittany want our sympathy as fathers?

Why doesn’t Brittany want our sympathy as fathers?

If you are struggling with appreciating this point of view, you are not alone. It is tempting and 'well intended' for men to react to what is being discussed by Brittany Higgins and Grace Tame, with genuine sympathy. Sympathy that may come from our experience of...

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Working Parents and societal change

Working Parents and societal change

This week has been a week of transitions in my household, as it probably has been for many working parents. Our eldest son started back at school, and our younger son is back at daycare. PLUS, coincidently, my wife has returned to her practice this week, after taking...

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