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Are you watering down your DEI Initatives?
๐๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ฎ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฑ๐ผ๐๐ป ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐๐๐ ๐ถ๐ป๐ถ๐๐ถ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐๐ฒ๐? There is a difference between compliance training and real development. I don't work in compliance training, but unfortunately, many organisations mistake DEI as another compliance topic. At the heart, many organisations...
Transgender Awareness Week 2022
Just a reminder that Transgender Awareness Week should be about giving visibility to the challenges faced by this community - issues of prejudice, discrimination, and violence that affect the transgender community - and working to ensure greater inclusion of members...
My Hands Are Full
For the last 18 months, I've been, and still am, the primary carer for my daughter on at least two days of the working week (plus Sunday). My wife and I have split responsibilities so that we both do paid work 3 days a week, 3 days a week we are the primary carer for...
Do You Wipe The Seat?
Speaking on behalf of most men, accidently peeing on a toilet seat happens often. When this happens, you are faced with a decision – to clean it up or to move on and pretend it wasn’t you. Hopefully you choose the former. But evidence suggests that many of...
How many circles do you see in the image below?
It is not a trick - there are actually 16 circles. Look again. When you see them - trust me - it'll be all you can see. I stumbled across this optical illusion - it's called a Coffer Illusion. (You can search for it if, like many people, you still can't see the...
“H-e-y-G-u-y-s” “Hey Everyone!”
I've been working on changing my go-to of referring to a group of people as "guys". It has NOT been easy. There are, of course, plenty of peopleโincluding many people who aren't men โwho have no problem being addressed as "guys", and have come to think that word has...
Gender Equity vs Gender Equality
I was having a discussion earlier this week with a man working in D&I, and he picked up on my language around achieving gender โequalityโ rather than โequityโ. He shared that recently โ only three weeks prior โ heโd come to the realisation that gender equality...
I want to put myself out of a job
My mission for Bloke Coaching is that it wonโt be needed in 15 years. That will coincide with my 50th birthday. Call me naรฏve. But Iโm putting it out there in order to keep myself accountable โ โ I don't want to still be doing this in 15 years' time. โ I don't want to...
Intention Bias vs Judging Behaviour
There is a hypocrisy most of us struggle with. Intentions and behaviour are legitimate ways to evaluate human conduct. The problem is that we are conveniently biased towards intentions when considering ourselves, and towards behaviour when evaluating other people. We...
Would you buy your son a pram?
When my son turned 4, we bought him a pram. It was one of three things that he really wanted, and he had mentioned it frequently in the lead-up to his birthday. Interestingly, I found myself evaluating and re-evaluating my gender biases. It revealed about me, to...
Do you see gender inequality?
A lot of men donโt seem to โgetโ gender inequality โฆyet. We struggle to see what so many non-men can see so regularly and so plainly. Firstly, because there is male privilege, we probably donโt see the inequality as easily as those without the privilege. But hereโs...
How much did my gender or my other characteristics, give me an edge?
"People who think that have claimed the greasy pole on their own misunderstand how much luck had a part to play and how society, directly or indirectly, also helped them rise." ~ Minouche Shafik. You can read Minouche's full article here. For me, a couple of...